Love & Relationship

The lights are dim,soothing music playing in the background with the cool air of the ac giving one shivers, lots of whispers and other 'noises' in the background....... Dirtymind :P this is the scene I get to see every week in a theatre before the movie starts. Week after week I see hundreds of couples, some totally lost in each other, some being just good friends, some wondering if they are with the right person and some with a grumpy face because they didnt want to watch the movie in the first place.
Inspite of the wide spectrum of feelings among the couples, the fact is that there is force which binds them .Is it love ? Its such an explicable feeling is love.I dont think anybody can decipher love.You dont know why you like her yet you always think of her. I feel people take too much liberty with the word love. Ultimately we humans are self centered. We all wish there is someone special for us. It is this desire for a companion that binds couples.
Wow, as I write , I am able to explain things which I too didnt understand or had not thought of! Some people say love is all about understanding a beautiful soul and looks dont matter but I beg to differ. Love is a blissful feeling of attraction towards something that is beautiful to your soul. Thats all is love. What is beautiful differs from soul to soul.Some souls get attracted to her looks and some to her nature. What matters here is the attraction and not the cause for it. After this you start liking everything about her and this is love.Later even if she changes (her nature or looks), it doesnt matter because everytime you think of her, you relive the the feeling when you first fell in love with her.This is love : pure and simple.
What complicates matters is the human desire to possess something which is beautiful. And this attempt to gain possession can lead to a painful experience. If we dont achieve what we desire we are heartbroken. Once we possess something we desired , another human quality which comes into picture is greed . We feel satisfied at our accomplishment and eventually get bored of it and aim at something 'better'.
Relationships sustain because of various reasons. One is just the love for each other. Second is that you are possessive and hence you cannot imagine a life without her. So you learn to adjust and sacrifice and compliment each other. Third is that you have put in a lot of effort to get into a relation and hence you dont want to let go of it as you feel you will have to struggle again to find someone else.And lastly some people are relationship clings who just cant live alone. They always need someone to be there for them.
One major question which comes in mind is if love is a true feeling why do some of us cheat her or take advantage of her feelings for us.The answer to this is simple. It all depends on how good a person you are. As a relationship builds there is a fusion of love and conscience . How much you love depends on how good you are at understanding people and how much you care for their feelings.If you have these qualities, your conscience blends with love and becomes a stronger feeling which leads to this state called 'Devotion'.If you dont have these qualities, then love may not be enough to sustain the relationship.
'Anyone can fall in love but Devotion is something above lesser mortals'

Dance Explicated

Dance is a means to connect with your soul. When there is fusion of delectable music and an eye catching dance move, the pleasure one receives just fills the whole body. One can actually feel the energy soaring on the inside. I can compare it to an aura which is blinding people around or the first rays of the rising sun when it is in between two mountains.The more you practice the better you get at it. And the joy is directly proportional to how well you dance. I've realized that a true dancer doesn't dance well for the accolades he gets but just for the pleasure of dancing well.
Dance is also indicative of people's personality. There are different kinds of people in this world but they all seem to connect when on a dance floor. The way a person talks is dependent on the people he interacts with , the way he is brought up and his social circle. The way you are when on a dance floor is what you truly are because you dance from your soul which is not bound by any worldly matter.
In partner dancing you also learn how to behave with ,treat the opposite gender. You end up becoming a better person :)

One always has a choice

Ever heard of people cribbing that they have too much work and hence dont have a social life? Everytime I hear this it makes me laugh . But ofcourse I do it on the inside only! You keep hearing people say that you alone are responsible for your fate and yet they dont realize its not the work which is hampering their social life . Instead it is the greed for money(more work=>better appraisal) which is the culprit. One always has a choice to maintaining a healthy balance between work and personal life. Yes it may mean that you may not be the performer of the quarter but then who cares! You should realize that there will always be some work pending. There is no point in sacrificing your personal life for something which doesnt have an end.

Hope?

Hope-Something to live for,
Something worth fighting for.
Does become cliched at times,
The meaning not clearly understood!
One ought to ask-If
hope is something worth living for,
What is it that gives hope.
These are the little moments in life
When one gets the utmost joy.
When one feels within -
Ah!This is life!
When the going gets tough,
Time slows down.The axe of
life gunning for your head.
At this moment, the most treasured moment
flashes in front of one's eyes.
Giving one a reason to live for,
To escape from the claws of the monster within.
Hence,appreciate those precious moments
For they will save you time and again.
Remember,nothing glorious about fighting till death
Because the best part about life is life itself!

Online friends

Making friends with strangers on net is certainly not the same as meeting someone new. No matter how much you get to know about the other person , he/she ends up being just an email id to you. For example, you happen to come across someone new in say a social gathering. All you do is just smile at that person once. But still you feel like you can trust that person. Compare this to an online friend with whom you have shared thoughts for a few months. You still wouldn't feel comfortable disclosing your contact details or meeting that person! I am not here to say what is right and what is not. Its just something to think about. I feel trust is more dependant on your instincts rather than the time you spend getting to know the other person.
Moreover the quest for a friend online is just an illusion . You always feel that one more try and you re there . But that never happens. One could always blame the few imposters who have misused the anonymity which is available. But I still feel there is hope.
If you ask me what the solution is , I would say dont wait for months to gain a persons trust. You just trust your instincts and ask the person if u re more than just a email id ! If the other person doesnt trust you then , its not going to change in the future also. So you have to just move on and the cycle continues :)